Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling, with the mistaken belief that you can not bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all that you are beyond that pain. – Kahlil Gibran
This quote by Kahlil holds so much truth from experiences that I have had in my own life and in those around me. Feeling and acknowledging the uncomfortable pain in our life and working on letting it go, is essential if we want to find a deeper sense of ourself and of love.
To feel love or our pain we need to allow ourselves to become vulnerable. We can sit safely in our imaginations all day or we can fully commit to taking action, embracing the notion that we might fail or get hurt. When we numb sadness and pain, we numb joy and happiness. Feeling the depths of our lows enables us to fully feel the depths of our highs. It’s all connected.
I did a heart opening technique in my meditation class the other day I wanted to share with you how we did this.
Sit quietly and become aware of your breathing.
Close you eyes and take some deep breaths in and out deeply and slowly.
Feel yourself relax and become still in your thoughts.
Now begin to visualise your heart, visualise the whole area of your chest and upper back.
What does this area feel like? Does it feel tight or heavy? Does it feel light? What feelings are rising up within you when you go to your heart and start to be aware of how you feel?
Whatever arises, whether it be anger, fear, sadness, love or joy feel it.
Now let go of these negative feelings, through your breath, allow your breath to breathe out these heavy feelings through to the ground.
Keep breathing out these feelings until you feel lighter. Keep using your breath to release.
Now visualise your heart and see it filling up with light, love, peace and joy. Keep sending that to your heart saying, “I am love”
After a minute or two of repeating this, tune in to how you feel. What do you feel? Allow love and peace into your soul and heart, you deserve this.
Take some deep breaths in and out and open your eyes.
I love practising this technique, as it can help us connect to our feelings, allow them to be validated and acknowledged and in letting them go, we allow more space to receive what we need.