Learning to heal 

We must look at ourselves over and over again in order to learn how to love, to discover what has kept our hearts closed, and what it means to allow our hearts to open.  Jack Kornfield

From a young age we have been taught to believe in love, happy endings and fairytale hopes. 

But where along the way were we taught how to face sickness, death, grief, anxiety, and loss?

Because of this, society is overwhelmed as we struggle to understand how to face these difficult challenges and our inability to trust and know deeply, that if our hearts break open, we will survive. 

Often it’s not until we are drowning in our pain, that we realise we know nothing about this path. Worse still, as we search for answers and support to work through this difficult time, we discover no one else does either! 

Society has trained us to believe that if we unravel or fall apart through these difficult challenges, then at some point we need to tidy it up, push it down or better still, lock it away, as it may make others feel uncomfortable. Besides, how long does it take to get over anyway? 

The answer is there is no timeframe. Each of us has a unique rhythm and timing of suffering and healing.

 Allow space for this pain to arise in you and others. Learn to see what this pain reveals in you, and how it can change your path and create new beginnings. 

Take time to nurture, heal and accept these wounds as part of our journey.

Choose well 

We are all one universe

An eternal wholeness

We complete each other’s existence 

‘Alone’ is never an option.

Anita Krizzan 

A baker in the town wanted to get to know a famous guru and so he invited him to dinner. The day before the dinner, the guru went into his bakery disguised as a beggar and took a loaf of bread and began eating it. The baker was furious and tossed him out on the street. 

The following day the guru and a disciple went to the bakers house and were treated to a splendid banquet. 

In the middle of the meal, the disciple asks, “How does one tell a good man from a bad one?”

Well, just look at this baker, he is capable of spending ten gold pieces on a banquet because I am famous, but is incapable of giving a piece of bread to feed a hungry beggar. 

Paul Coelho

Each day we all make decisions that will either connect us or separate us. Our choices complete each other’s existence. Our choices create a ripple effect around the world. 

What would love ask of you? 

All of us are climbing the same mountain, but we each carry a different cross. 

Working with people who are facing grief or difficulties each day, I realise that no matter who we are, we all face burdens or carry a cross at some point along our journey. 

Each of us respond to our burdens differently, but I believe that we can always ask a simple question that may help us in our pain. 

“What would love ask of you?” 

Sounds simple enough, but when we truly understand love for ourselves first and then others, it can teach us how to respond during these difficult times. 

Love may want us to speak the truth.  Love may want us to slow down and nurture ourselves. Love may want us to have courage to face another day. Love may want us to reach out and receive the support we need. Love may want us to be gentle with ourselves, letting go of our judgement and expectations. Love may want us to accept others unconditionally. Love may want us to accept this moment exactly as it is. 

No matter what love asks of you. Listen. You may find it’s exactly what you need. 

Orchestra of life 

In this vast cosmic orchestra, peace is the music of every heart. Our happiness lies in understanding, listening and honoring that music.  Amit Ray 

If life is an orchestra, then what instrument have you found that expresses the music of your heart? 

Over time, I have learned which are not my instruments in life and I have tried a few of them! Sometimes I have believed I should play instruments that don’t suit me, or that I  believe others would want me to play, but that has never allowed peace or happiness in. 

Being in an orchestra means we are apart of the entire music piece and each of us has a gift to play our part well, so that the music flows easily and sounds beautiful. 

I have learned that no matter where I go in life, I am still apart of this orchestra and each decision I make, affects the music around me. 

The timing of my music is also vital to the harmony and flow of the orchestra. 

There are times when I need to play my part and there are times when I need to sit, listen and wait, so that others can play their important part too. 

When I truly know what my part is and I honor and practice that each day, I begin to connect to an infinite source of music, and learn to create harmony in every part of my life. 

Change the rooms in your mind

Born in 1310, Persian Lyric Poet Hafiz is one of the most celebrated of all the Persian poets. Like Rumi, Hafiz continues through time to inspire us and guide us to see the world through love and understanding. 

There is so much wisdom in this poem. So leave the familiar for awhile, and let it speak to you.


                      All the Hemispheres


Leave the familiar for awhile.

Let your senses and body stretch out like a welcomed season, onto the meadows, shores and hills.

Open up to the roof. Make a new watermark of excitement and love. 

Change the rooms in your mind for a day. 

All the hemispheres in existence lie beside an equator in your heart. 

Greet yourself in your thousand other forms, as you mount the hidden tide and travel back home.

All the hemispheres in heaven are sitting around a fire chatting. 

While stitching themselves together into the great circle inside of you.

Hafiz –

 

Fix You First

When we take time to replenish our spirit and energy, it allows us to serve others from the overflow. We cannot serve from an empty vessel.  Eleanor Brownn


I was watching Jane Goodall being interviewed last night and they were discussing the chaos and unease in the world at present. They asked her opinion. 

“When we look at all the problems and pain in the world, it can feel overwhelming and can seem too difficult to change or believe we can make a difference; but when we start small, begin by looking at our own life, our own concerns first, we can begin to balance our part of the whole and this not only empowers us, but more importantly, has a ripple effect far greater than we will ever know.”

Each of us can achieve this balance within. Instead of feeling burdened by the world, feel empowered, by learning to fill ourselves up first. This way there is always an overflow of love, healing and energy to share with others. 


    

 

Timing

Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.

There is a story of a man who bought his dream home with a 360 degree view of the vast ocean, but a day after he moved, a deep fog set in. Frustrated with the situation and the inability to see, he decided to move back to his old apartment and wait for it to lift.

The day he left the house, the fog lifted and when he finally decided to move back to the house, the fog set in again.

Having spent the last month or so trying to find the perfect home, it felt like the fog came in. At times I couldn’t see anything in front of me or behind me and I knew, all I could do was trust that in time it would lift.

When the fog sets in through life, we can lose sight of our dreams and our hopes. During those times we can try and take control and run from the discomfort of not knowing.

In the fog we can believe that all is lost and that the path ahead will always look like this.

Sitting in acceptance and surrender during this uncertainty, rather than trying to control and resist this path, is how we move through the fog.

I waited and learned to trust each day that my home would arrive in the perfect time. I trusted that what I was seeking, was seeking me, and in that daily surrender, the fog lifted and I found it.

We now have a beautiful new home. It’s perfect and of course; arrived in the perfect time!!

How many times have I had to learn this lesson!!?? About a million… 😂

Interconnectedness

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“There is a deep interconnectedness of all life on earth, from the tiniest organisms, to the largest ecosystems, and absolutely between each person.” Bryant McGill

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Four Principles to live by….

 Ah world, what lessons you prepare for us ……..Mary Oliver

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Laugh more…

 

“Laugh and the world laughs with you; weep and you weep alone.” – Ella Wheeler Wilcox

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