Learning to heal 

We must look at ourselves over and over again in order to learn how to love, to discover what has kept our hearts closed, and what it means to allow our hearts to open.  Jack Kornfield

From a young age we have been taught to believe in love, happy endings and fairytale hopes. 

But where along the way were we taught how to face sickness, death, grief, anxiety, and loss?

Because of this, society is overwhelmed as we struggle to understand how to face these difficult challenges and our inability to trust and know deeply, that if our hearts break open, we will survive. 

Often it’s not until we are drowning in our pain, that we realise we know nothing about this path. Worse still, as we search for answers and support to work through this difficult time, we discover no one else does either! 

Society has trained us to believe that if we unravel or fall apart through these difficult challenges, then at some point we need to tidy it up, push it down or better still, lock it away, as it may make others feel uncomfortable. Besides, how long does it take to get over anyway? 

The answer is there is no timeframe. Each of us has a unique rhythm and timing of suffering and healing.

 Allow space for this pain to arise in you and others. Learn to see what this pain reveals in you, and how it can change your path and create new beginnings. 

Take time to nurture, heal and accept these wounds as part of our journey.

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Choose well 

We are all one universe

An eternal wholeness

We complete each other’s existence 

‘Alone’ is never an option.

Anita Krizzan 

A baker in the town wanted to get to know a famous guru and so he invited him to dinner. The day before the dinner, the guru went into his bakery disguised as a beggar and took a loaf of bread and began eating it. The baker was furious and tossed him out on the street. 

The following day the guru and a disciple went to the bakers house and were treated to a splendid banquet. 

In the middle of the meal, the disciple asks, “How does one tell a good man from a bad one?”

Well, just look at this baker, he is capable of spending ten gold pieces on a banquet because I am famous, but is incapable of giving a piece of bread to feed a hungry beggar. 

Paul Coelho

Each day we all make decisions that will either connect us or separate us. Our choices complete each other’s existence. Our choices create a ripple effect around the world. 

What would love ask of you? 

All of us are climbing the same mountain, but we each carry a different cross. 

Working with people who are facing grief or difficulties each day, I realise that no matter who we are, we all face burdens or carry a cross at some point along our journey. 

Each of us respond to our burdens differently, but I believe that we can always ask a simple question that may help us in our pain. 

“What would love ask of you?” 

Sounds simple enough, but when we truly understand love for ourselves first and then others, it can teach us how to respond during these difficult times. 

Love may want us to speak the truth.  Love may want us to slow down and nurture ourselves. Love may want us to have courage to face another day. Love may want us to reach out and receive the support we need. Love may want us to be gentle with ourselves, letting go of our judgement and expectations. Love may want us to accept others unconditionally. Love may want us to accept this moment exactly as it is. 

No matter what love asks of you. Listen. You may find it’s exactly what you need.